I understand that the goal should be a healthy lifestyle. If you’re always looking to be more skinny you’re always going to have problems cause you’ll never see yourself as skinny enough. If you lost a lot of weight recently, it’s actually not that great compared to if you’re healthy and happy right now. There’s nothing different between when you were visibly fat and visibly thin. Both times you were focusing on how you looked and how your weight affected that. Any real difference that can occur can only take place if you changed to a healthy lifestyle, and then if you do lose weight and look thinner, then that’s just something that happened along the way.

I’m not discussing this because I want to lose weight, but it’s because i’ve been a victim of scrutiny about my body and/or weight. I really don’t care whether i’m fat or skinny. People have been talking bad about me since ever, so whether or not i gain or lose weight isn’t going to change that. Bethenny Frankel and Jennifer Hudson, although are happy and healthy, sadly failed to address this issue. What they do is for themselves, which is to choose a positive, healthy, and productive lifestyle, but instead seem to gloat about how thin they are, which wasn’t and shouldn’t have been the point of all their effort.

Another important thing that I wish to address and not just in this post, is about societies expectations, which could be one of the causes of people’s obsession with exercising solely to lose weight and be thin. I’d also like to point out that a lot of people who are obsessed with diets and exercise for this reason are already thin, but they want to look thin, which is so much more important to them than just being thin. Society has a lot of expectations for people, not just adults, and not to just be thin. I’m not sure about the grammar for any of this so feel free to correct me. Our culture and lifestyle conveniently does not provide the individual with any necessary reinforcement for being able to completely have identification of each persons’ true self and public persona, in order to face the paradoxes of, paradoxically, our culture and society. Everyone seem to have roles that they have to fill, especially when no one says it out loud. And that’s the most damaging part, especially to children. They already think that they have to be something as expected by society, without anyone having said it to them. It’s just implied by social interactions. Ah, wonderful healthy social interactions that take place. In conducive environments like school, work, recreational facilities, and those wonderful social events. So if someone is busy trying to fulfil the role that society expects of them, they’re replacing something much more valuable that they should’ve used their time for — identifying themselves as individuals. Then there’s the added complication of your public persona, which for some people seem to think is, like in an equation, the difference between your expectations and what you actually are. Public persona never adds up perfectly like that. It’s completely random and doesn’t make sense at all.

So sure, there’re rehab centers and treatment facilities people can appropriate. But I don’t think there’re enough support groups for people who don’t actually have medical disorders. Maybe we should have a halfway house for women who just got out of a bad divorce. Things that you go through even though only in a certain period, can have a very life-consuming effect on you.

So I have some very vivid, rather inelegant, visuals for the eager few who wish to satisfy their inquisitive minds and eyes. Questionable, sketchy stuff i know, but that’s why you only click on this link if you really want to.